That exact scenario — Mom is thriving at work, children are suffering at home — is one of millions that takes place throughout the country. The truth is that which none of us is allowed to say: Children are suffering — and desperately need their mommies. That’s why Slaughter’s article garnered so much attention. It hit us in the gut.
That children need their mothers is a hard pill to swallow for a nation of women who’ve been sold a script. This script has been clear since day one: A woman’s power lies outside the home, not inside. The more impressive the résumé, the more impressive the woman.
What Slaughter learned the hard way is that her résumé doesn’t mean beans. Sure, it opened doors. Yes, it allows her to mingle with the big wigs. It’s all very impressive.
Except to her children.
And that’s really what this conversation is about, isn’t it? The children — and whether or not we value them. Our actions, our choices, are the only way to prove what we value. The rest is just talk.
Raising helpless, dependent babies to become secure, competent adults is an awesome and invaluable task. Nothing in this world is more important. Nothing. No mother can successfully perform this task if her attention is constantly divided, or if she’s simply not around to do the job. That’s why two parents are so critical for childrearing. This is a perennial that we as a nation cannot seem to face.
Do read the whole thing. This should be required reading for every man, woman, and child over 15 in America.
Children’s needs conflict with adult desires. Period. End of story. Children do not flourish when their mothers are absent, and they are not happy as long as Mom is happy. That’s part of the feminist script. All children want, all they’ve ever wanted, is Mom. Not in spirit — in the flesh.
Bless you, Suzanne. Thanks for serving it up straight.