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Little Bullies, Big Problem: Karen Klein Case Highlights Moral Malformation of our Youth

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Perhaps it would be helpful if all the adults took a refresher course in Connect the Dots. “Start here… this dot leads to that dot leads to the next dot leads to the next… do you see the connection? Do you see the picture starting to emerge?”

Once we’ve reminded everyone how to connect the dots, we need to put it in reverse. People need to be re-taught that the problem they’re dealing with today can be traced back, choice by choice, action by action, to something they did (or didn’t do) years ago. Something they’ve repeatedly done or haven’t done, day after day ever since.

This is the blessing and the cost of freedom. Our choices and actions are ours and so is the responsibility. Yet we’re not in it all alone. The blessings of wise decisions and meritorious actions are often shared by those around us. Likewise, the consequences of bad choices and immoral actions are suffered by everyone around us as well. Here comes the theme again: our lives are connected.

For instance, we’re all feeling the pain of widespread, really bad parenting and indifference to discipline and morality. Exhibit A: the middle school kids who gleefully tormented 68 year-old Karen Klein on their schoolbus. Klein works as a school bus monitor in upstate New York and last week she was subjected to the heartless cruelty of a group of kids who thought their escapade so funny that one of them videotaped the whole thing and put it on YouTube.

What happened to Karen Klein should be seen as an indicator of the emptiness of moral character that is spreading among children like a lethal virus. Far from just a bad moment in time, it reveals a real decay in personal fibre and humanity. Those kids are our future, God help us.

So what has happened to those kids? The school says they are investigating. So far, it seems no disciplinary action has been taken. Ironically, some of the bullies became targets themselves of some angry residents of their community, forcing local police to expend time and resources protecting them. Nice how that works, isn’t it? They commit a shameful act of cruelty and abuse, no one stops them or disciplines them, but then when other people get angry and threaten them, they get all kinds of police protection. Makes them seem like the victim. (Too bad no one cared enough to protect Mrs. Klein.)

With crystal clarity let me say there can be no condoning the threats against the kids. Violence toward these bullies only perpetuates the evil. They do not “deserve” to be harmed, nor do their families “deserve” death threats. They are children — badly behaved, poorly formed children — in dire need of having to endure some serious disciplinary consequences for their actions.

For starters, every single one of the kids involved should be expelled from school immediately. Since it was the end of the year, they should be expelled for the upcoming school year. Their behavior was atrocious and until they learn differently they’re not fit for public school. Next, the principal and their parents should get together and find a suitable service project to which the kids would devote at least 500 hours of their time over the next year. Serving the elderly and disabled should be the central theme. Physical labor should be required. (If any of this inconveniences Mom and Dad, too bad.)

That would be a good start. But only a start. Back up several dots — the real problem goes much deeper. Mere punishment will not effect the change these kids desperately need. Neither will all the dollars and hype being poured into anti-bullying programs. It’s not social malformation we have to correct but moral malformation.

They seem to lack any ability to have empathy for another person, or any ability to show compassion and kindness. They lack any sense of right and wrong. They lack even a smidgen of control over their negative impulses. They took delight in being cruel and such a tendency cannot be minimized. With due respect to the father of one of the boys, this was not simply a “stupid mistake”. This was a deliberate and callous act with violent undertones. On the video one of the boys can be heard mockingly describing what would happen if he stuck a knife in Mrs. Klein.

The bad news is, these are kids. The blame for their moral malformation and subsequent terrible behavior can be laid squarely at our feet — the grown-ups.

The good news is, these are kids. There is hope for them. The “mold” isn’t totally set yet and there is time to try to recast them. Only if, however, we are honest enough to connect the dots and admit that the ugly picture is our own doing.

These kids weren’t raised in a vacuum. They’re the product of their environment and their culture. They’ve become what they’ve been fed — a steady diet of consumerism; violence through graphic video games and television; crude and vulgar speech through the music blasting from their iPods; relentless sexual titillation bombarding them everywhere they turn; and the philosophy of “me first.” They’ve learned that their wants should be satisfied without delay or cost to them. They’ve learned that pleasure dominates, and if something displeases them, they can ignore it, neglect it, or destroy it.

They’ve learned that promises don’t mean much and vows can be broken any time; fidelity is old-fashioned and sex is the meaning of life. Other people are not human beings with dignity but objects to be used for satisfaction and then discarded. They find amusement in vandalism and give no thought to trashing a grave site.

God is out, and their personal freedom, according to the dictates of relativism, is the true supreme law that cannot be violated. Worst of all, they are growing up with a deep disregard for human life. In the case of human life deemed “less than” their own, they seem to have an instinctual contempt. (Why? Because we celebrate the pagan practice of slaughtering our own children if we don’t want them, or they’re not perfectly healthy, or they’re not the right gender, or hey, just because, that’s why. You think they don’t get the message that only some human life is valuable?) That’s what we saw on that school bus.

Imagine a world dominated by such people in 30 years. Are you alarmed yet? So my question is, when are folks finally going to admit that our culture is toxic and ruining our kids? When are the adults going to start showing up again? Who created this toxic mess anyway? From whom are these kids learning their boorish, selfish, and cold-hearted behavior? (You get three guesses and the first two don’t count.)

Solidarity requires that after the discipline is enforced we get to the root of the problem and teach these children what it means to love their neighbor, what it means to love, period. Clearly, they do not know. Whose fault is that?

Let’s start by acknowledging that for too long parents have surrendered their parenting authority to the culture at large, either out of indifference, laziness, or ambition. Kids have become things we have around only when it’s convenient for us, and the truth is that children are never convenient. They require what much of our society is no longer willing to provide: parents who take parenting seriously. We’re raising future adults here, and the sampling on that school bus says we’re doing a phenomenally lousy job.

One more thing: If this is the “socialization” that my homeschooled kids are supposedly missing out on by being “deprived” of their peers, you better believe I want no part of it and you’ll “socialize” my kids over my dead body. Every homeschooled child I’ve ever met has been polite, respectful, pleasant to talk with, helpful, and considerate. Precisely because they’re not learning to behave like animals from their peers — they’ve learned to be civilized, respectable people from the adults in their lives.

Imagine a different picture and connect these dots: Mom and Dad are married to each other, living under the same roof. Mom and Dad know how to say NO. Love, respect, kindness, and service to others are the rule. Children are taught modesty in dress, speech, and behavior. (aka, Pull Your Pants Up and Mind Your Manners) They learn that all human life is sacred. They learn they are not the center of the universe. They learn to put God first in their lives, and as a result, they are happy. They learn chastity is possible and preferable. They learn that they matter; they’re worth a lot; they’re needed; they’re wanted; they’ve got a purpose. They learn they are loved, and they learn how to love others.

Now tell me — which set of dots should we be connecting?

 
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Posted by on June 30, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

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What Children Really Want: MOM

I have to admit that my first thought when I read this was, “Man, I wish I’d written this awesome piece.”  Kudos to Suzanne Venker at the National Review.  She nails it, but good.

That exact scenario — Mom is thriving at work, children are suffering at home — is one of millions that takes place throughout the country. The truth is that which none of us is allowed to say: Children are suffering — and desperately need their mommies. That’s why Slaughter’s article garnered so much attention. It hit us in the gut.

That children need their mothers is a hard pill to swallow for a nation of women who’ve been sold a script. This script has been clear since day one: A woman’s power lies outside the home, not inside. The more impressive the résumé, the more impressive the woman.

What Slaughter learned the hard way is that her résumé doesn’t mean beans. Sure, it opened doors. Yes, it allows her to mingle with the big wigs. It’s all very impressive.

Except to her children.

And that’s really what this conversation is about, isn’t it? The children — and whether or not we value them. Our actions, our choices, are the only way to prove what we value. The rest is just talk.

Raising helpless, dependent babies to become secure, competent adults is an awesome and invaluable task. Nothing in this world is more important. Nothing. No mother can successfully perform this task if her attention is constantly divided, or if she’s simply not around to do the job. That’s why two parents are so critical for childrearing. This is a perennial that we as a nation cannot seem to face.

Do read the whole thing.  This should be required reading for every man, woman, and child over 15 in America.

 

Children’s needs conflict with adult desires. Period. End of story. Children do not flourish when their mothers are absent, and they are not happy as long as Mom is happy. That’s part of the feminist script. All children want, all they’ve ever wanted, is Mom. Not in spirit — in the flesh.

 

Bless you, Suzanne.  Thanks for serving it up straight.

 
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Posted by on June 27, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

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Catholic Online’s Associate Editor Now a Catholic Priest!

The Catholic Online family is over the moon with pride and joy for our Associate Editor-in-Chief:  now Father Randy Sly!

 
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Posted by on June 25, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

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Memory Day: BRAVE

Put down the books, left the laundry piled on the floor, and went to the theater today with a gaggle of girls to see Brave.  Made a memory with my daughters and it was worth it.  A wonderful time was had by all.  I absolutely loved Merida.

The only review I advise reading is Steven Greydanus.  He’s the only one who won’t spoil the fun for you.  And I completely agree that The Bow and The Bear was a much better title.  Pixar should have stuck with it.

 
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Posted by on June 22, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

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Thoughts From a Yummy-Mummy

My first thought when I read this piece of infuriating poppycock from Mrs. Tony Blair was, “Ms. Cherie can kiss my yummy-mummy hiney!”

Cherie Blair, wife of the former British prime minister, has said that she worries young women are turning their backs on feminism by regarding motherhood as an acceptable alternative to a career.

“Every woman needs to be self-sufficient and in that way you really don’t have a choice – for your own satisfaction,” Blair told Fortune magazine’s Most Powerful Women event held at Claridge’s in London last night, according to The Telegraph. “You hear these yummy mummies talk about being the best possible mother and they put all their effort into their children.”

“Yummy mummy” is a UK slang term typically used to describe young, attractive women who live on their husband’s wealth, staying home full-time with their children.

Blair suggested that children raised in households with a full-time mom lack a sense of independence and can’t make their way in the world because their moms don’t have “professional ambition.”

It goes hand-in-hand with this other piece of infuriating poppycock from Elizabeth Wurtzel at The Atlantic:

Let’s please be serious grown-ups: real feminists don’t depend on men. Real feminists earn a living, have money and means of their own…

Hilary Rosen would not have been so quick to be so super sorry for saying that Ann Romney has never worked a day in her life if we weren’t all made more than a wee bit nervous by our own biases, which is that being a mother isn’t really work. Yes, of course, it’s something — actually, it’s something almost every woman at some time does, some brilliantly and some brutishly and most in the boring middle of making okay meals and decent kid conversation. But let’s face it: It is not a selective position. A job that anyone can have is not a job, it’s a part of life, no matter how important people insist it is (all the insisting is itself overcompensation). Even moms with full-time jobs spend 86 percent as much time with their kids as unemployed mothers, so it is apparently taking up the time of about 14 percent of a paid position. And all the cultish glorification of home and hearth still leaves us in a world where most of the people paid to chef and chauffeur in the commercial world are men. Which is to say, something becomes a job when you are paid for it — and until then, it’s just a part of life.

 

So let me see if I’ve got this:  If I hire someone to take care of my children while I’m out doing my feminist duty, then it’s a real job because that person was selected for the position and is earning a salary; but if I take care of my own children myself every day, it’s not only not a real job but it’s a waste of my energies and abilities and an insult to women everywhere?

I’m sick to death of the femi-nazis whining about how I’m betraying the collective by staying home to care for my own children and putting their needs ahead of my own ambitions.

(Now if you’ll excuse me, I’ve got some recorded soaps to watch, Bon-bons to eat, a manicure to schedule, and some retail therapy waiting after that.  Ah, the sweet life of a traitor who never works!)

 
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Posted by on June 21, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

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Sex-selection Abortions and China’s Brutality: Shall We “Gulp and Get Over It”?

at Catholic Online


When Slate.com editor Allison Benedikt wrote last week that the pro-choice movement in America needs to stop being squeamish about sex-selection abortions and just accept it, I thought my head might explode, but ultimately I said nothing. One can only respond to so many outrageous things said by the abortion industry and its advocates, and her article was definitely outrageous.

Ms. Benedikt’s pièce de résistance was this: “Also, let’s just remember that we are talking about fetuses. No matter how many ultrasound pics get posted to Facebook, these are fetuses with female genitals or male genitals — not little boys or little girls. If pro-choicers object to aborting because of the sex of the fetus, aren’t we then saying that abortion is “murdering” girls? Aren’t we basically arguing that a fetus is not a blank slate but a future possibility? That is not the case to make if your goal is to protect abortion rights. Gulp for a second if you must, then get over it.”

Now you see why I thought my head might explode.

When not instituting wild new pseudo-science and rewriting human biology, Benedikt is like some weird hybrid of hypnotist and drill Sergeant: You will NOT acknowledge that instinctual revulsion rising up in your throat at the idea of killing girls just because they’re girls! I know you’re a girl, too. So what? You will NOT admit that it’s wrong! Listen to me, it’s not really a girl anyway! Swallow hard! Abortion is good! Ignore the queasiness in your stomach — it means nothing. All that matters is abortion!abortion!abortion!

Blank slates? Fetuses with female genitals or male genitals? Benedikt is choking on her own desperation and the desperation of the entire abortion industry. Since actual science refutes them at every turn and logic and reason are not on their side, they must invent their own “science” and their own logic. Suddenly that “thing” in the uterus is just a blank slate. Just an ambiguous creature with genitals that might be male or female, but whatever, it’s not a boy or girl. I wonder when the magic happens that turns the creature into a baby girl or baby boy.

Every rational person knows that Benedikt’s argument is preposterous, to put it nicely. But it’s her dictate that everyone just ignore the stirrings of their conscience and squash their uneasiness with the horror of gendercide that is most troubling. It ought to set off alarm bells in every feminist heart when someone starts preaching the necessity of killing girls merely because they’re girls for the sake of women’s rights.

It ought to disturb every person professed to be interested in justice and equality that the “choice” to kill girls just because they’re girls must be protected and defended for the sake of protecting the “choice” to kill any baby, for any reason whatsoever. If girls must pay a highly disproportionate price, so be it. Who cares about girls?

Benedikt is desperate because she knows that anyone who allows themselves to be repulsed by the idea of targeting baby girls in the womb will soon have to question abortion altogether. How can it be wrong to kill a baby girl but not a baby boy? How can it be wrong to abort for *this* reason but okay to abort for *that* reason? No. Once the veneer of morality is stripped away and the illogic exposed, abortion is revealed for what it truly is every time it happens: the intentional killing of a child.

So if you’re going to tell everyone to gulp and then “get over it”, then be honest about what you’re getting over, Ms. Benedikt: Killing a child — killing a girl. (Thanks for nothing, ya lousy feminists.)

So though her outrageous nonsense was mind-blowing, I decided to ignore Ms. Benedikt and move on. Until today when I saw the wrenching images of Feng Jianmei and her little baby who’d been forcibly aborted in China just a few weeks ago. It was more than my heart could take.

Via Jill Stanek:
“On May 30, 20 local Chinese officials dragged 23-yr-old pregnant mother Feng Jianmei from her home and held her three days for a 40,000 yuan ($6250) ransom before killing her seven-month-old baby en utero by lethal injection and delivering her tiny corpse after family failed to come up with the cash.”
“At the hospital they held her down,” said Mr Deng to All Girls Allowed, a Christian organisation in the United States that campaigns against the One Child policy. “They covered her head with a pillowcase. She could not do anything because they were restraining her,” he added. He said his wife had tried to kill herself after the abortion.
Mrs Feng told All Girls Allowed that she could “feel the baby jumping around inside me all the time, but then she went still”….
Chai Ling, of All Girls Allowed, said officials had “launched a campaign of forced abortions”. Li Yuongjiou, of Ankang’s family planning department, told Caixin, a magazine, that the town had missed its targets under the One Child policy for two years, and this year there was an emphasis on stricter enforcement.”

 

So, shall we still “gulp if we must, and then get over it”?? But that’s China, you say, not the United States. We don’t forcibly abort here! We’re all about choice!

Look at those pictures, and see our future. Actually, look at that baby and see our present. No, our government doesn’t hunt down pregnant women, abduct them off the streets, drug them, beat them, and then violently kill their babies against their will, thank God.

But the instinctual revulsion and horror we would rightly feel at the thought of tearing the arms and legs off a baby or stabbing a baby in the heart has been diluted in our hearts and silenced in our consciences for 40 years now. We’ve been told we have to allow abortion even if that thing in the pit of our stomachs won’t leave us in peace. We’ve been told to disregard that voice in our heads screaming that it can’t possibly be okay to kill a child.

We’ve been told abortion is a good thing for women and society, and those unsightly remains of bloody babies are just anti-woman propaganda. Yeah, it’s not pretty to look at, so do yourself a favor and stop looking at it. Forget the baby; it’s not human anyway.

All we’re left with is a mere feeling of uneasiness and discomfort at the idea of targeting girls in the womb, and now that discomfort, we’re told, we must swallow down and “get over”

Babies like Feng Jianmei’s are killed in our cities here in wonderful America every day, and we call it our “right.” Children are ripped from the womb in pieces and we call it our “choice.” We are well on our way to becoming China. If people heed Ms. Benedikt’s directive to just “gulp, then get over it”, the only possible destination is China.

Ms. Benedikt, take a good, long look at the photos of Feng Jianmei and her dead baby. Be horrified, if you still can be. Look at the baby. That’s no blank slate. That’s a child. That’s what your precious “choice” destroys while you play deaf, dumb, and blind to everything but your sacrosanct “right”.

All of you who insist you can personally be opposed to abortion but cannot “impose” your beliefs on anyone else, take a good, long look at that child. Now tell that child you just couldn’t “impose” on anyone else. Sorry, baby.

Is there anything left that will shock our numbed sensibilities? Fr. Frank Pavone is absolutely right when he says America will never reject abortion until America sees abortion.

Well, America, I dare you. Take a long, hard look at Feng Jianmei and her murdered little baby. That’s abortion.
Don’t just gulp and get over it.

 
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Posted by on June 16, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

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Religious Freedom Rally Today

Happening now all across the country!

 

 
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Posted by on June 8, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

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