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Is This Love? Surrogates, Gay Couples, and Motherless Babies

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The story of two gay men in Texas who became fathers of twin boys via a surrogate appeared in my Facebook feed a couple of weeks ago, posted by a woman voicing her support for the men and her anger over their legal predicament.

Each man is the biological father of one twin, and each wants to legally adopt the biological son of the other. Because Texas does not recognize same-sex “marriage”, the law will not allow the adoption or for the birth certificates to reflect the two fathers as parents of both boys.

So began the cry of discrimination toward these men, and the injustice of the law.

I decided to jump in with quite the opposite perspective. I wasn’t expecting my comments to be well-received, but even so, I was stunned at how the thread developed.

What was truly maddening, I said, was that two babies had been manufactured and sold, and now were being denied their mother. It is wrong, I argued, to create by design a home for those babies that intentionally deprives them of their mother. They have a right to know and be cared for by their mother.

I went even further and said that what the two men had done was not love. The adults have gotten what they wanted, but the babies have not been given what they need nor what they deserve and are truly entitled to, which is their mother. Whatever emotions or longings motivated the decision to conceive the babies, it was not love.

For that, I got the usual: Hateful, judgmental, critical, heartless bigot. No surprise. I was also informed that what I really meant was that homosexuals are not even capable of love.

The only moral outrage to be found was that two gay men were being prevented from legally adopting the other’s child. Not one other person in the thread was the least bit concerned about two babies being purposely denied their mother. The boys will have two dads, and that’s good enough.

I don’t think it is. Not at all. Not even close.

I couldn’t believe I was actually having to argue for the necessity of a mother in a child’s life! How is it that we’ve convinced ourselves that mothers are not really needed beyond giving birth? How can we seriously believe that children do not require a mother? Yet that was the argument. The boys have two dads, so they’ll be just fine. They are lucky to be so wanted, so loved. Lucky?!?

To be so loved…Except that love doesn’t do that. Love doesn’t amputate the mother from the baby’s life immediately after birth in order to accommodate the sexual preferences of the adult. Love doesn’t require the child to sacrifice for the lifestyle of the adult. Love does not tell the child, “You don’t really need a mother. You don’t get to have your mother.” Love does not presume that the child won’t feel the loss, and won’t suffer because of it.

“Love wills the good of the other,” I said. (Actually, St. Thomas Aquinas said.) “Love puts the other first. None of the adults involved in creating these babies put them first.”

Sound harsh? It should. I think it’s pretty harsh that kids are being made to order, to satisfy the wants of specialty couples who think it’s their prerogative to deprive a child of either mother or father, depending on their own sexual inclination. It’s extremely harsh that children are being required to forfeit their natural, healthy, undeniable need for both parents, mother AND father.

Frankly, it isn’t good enough that children are “wanted.” That’s the lingo and the philosophy of our contraception and abortion culture. ‘Every child a wanted child,’ and all that bull. That just means that children are things we acquire when we want to, and dispose of when we don’t want them. It’s centered only on the desires of the adults, without regard for the inherent worth of the child or his inviolable rights.

That’s not love. That’s not how children are to be treated. Wanting a child isn’t the standard. Clearly, these two men wanted a baby. They went to the trouble and expense to find a surrogate, and manufacture some embryos, and they were blessed with two healthy boys. They got what they wanted.

The real mother in Solomon’s court proved her love and her authenticity by choosing to suffer the pain of losing her baby, rather than let any harm come to him. She sought his good over her own, fully expecting terrible heartache for herself. That’s how love wills the good of the other.

Anyone truly devoted to the good of a child will not create by design a motherless or fatherless home for that child. Doing so causes great harm. And we’re not talking about harm brought about by unavoidable, unforeseen tragedy.This is planned and inflicted on purpose.

What about their mother? She’s not a victim here. In fact, she may not even be only one person! She’s what is now being called a “gestational carrier” and she may be carrying an embryo(s) created with a donor egg(s). Ugh — can we possibly find a more degrading way to treat a woman? The battle for equality for women has led us to this? Women being used for their wombs and their biological functions?

That’s the best case we can make for motherhood anymore? It’s just the physical process of gestation and childbirth? But beyond that, well, moms aren’t really necessary? How horrifying! And how ironic — decades ago the fight was to be valued for more than only mothering; now the battle has to be for the irreplaceable, pricelessness of a mother!

Assuming the mother is even mentioned on the child’s birth certificate, how will she be named? “Donor egg, incubated and grown by gestational carrier”? She’s nameless, faceless, and entirely missing.

And of course, the one who suffers the most is the child. Always the child. The child is ordered up, the product of a contract, bought and sold, and delivered like a piece of property. But it’s all dressed up in the language of wants and wishes and emotions, with a lovely baby shower and breathless oohs and ahhs, so surely it’s all wonderful.

No one is entitled to a child. Even married couples are not entitled to children. They have no right to expect that they will be given the gift of a child. They pray for children, and remain open to them in their marriage, but there’s no entitlement. You don’t walk up to the Giver of Life and insist He give you what you want. You don’t demand a gift. It’s a gift.

Children are the fruit of marriage for a reason. It’s God’s wise and perfect design that the love of husband and wife is ordered toward the creation of new life. He certainly could have designed it differently, but He obviously felt that both mother and father are necessary, and that children require the presence of both their parents.

The increasing frequency of babies being manufactured through surrogacy and then delivered to same-sex couples is alarming and heartbreaking. I can think of nothing more selfish than for adults to deliberately deprive a child they claim to love of her fundamental need and genuine right to be raised by her own mother and father because their sexual preference precludes it. It is a perversion of the family unit. It’s an injustice to the child.

Take a look at this photo.

toronto dads It shows a gay couple in Toronto as the son they’d had conceived through surrogacy was born. This beautiful little boy will also be denied his mother. The photographer captured the moment the two men held the baby to their bare chests.

Yes, I can clearly see the raw emotion, the tears, the joy of the father holding the baby. I do not doubt that he was overwhelmed with love in that precious moment. It is plainly obvious.

 

 

Now look at this photo.

baby Milo born to gay coupleI recognize something crucial in this picture, something else that is plainly obvious. That baby was searching for his mother. A newborn baby has only one real need, and that is to be put to mother’s breast and smell and feel her skin and suckle. That’s it. Sorry, guys, but that’s reality. Babies are born with a built-in homing device that drives them toward Mom.

I saw the baby’s face, and my heart ached and broke for him. He wanted his mother. No baby would gladly do without his mother.

Fathers are not mothers, and mothers are not fathers. They are not interchangeable. They are both essential for the well-being of a child, far beyond pregnancy and birth. That’s not just idealistic or old-fashioned dreaming. It’s common-sense reality; it’s moral truth; it’s natural law; it’s justice.

But it requires thinking, not merely acting on feelings. It requires considering the needs of another ahead of your own sometimes. It requires sacrificing what you may want in order to give the other what is truly right and just.

Our culture is so obsessed with making the case for same-sex “marriage” that now, astonishingly, sane people have to actually make the case for mothers and fathers.  We’ve elevated sexual activity and preferences high above the needs of our children. Whatever else you may call it, it’s not love.

 
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Posted by on July 9, 2014 in Uncategorized

 

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Answering the Only Question About Abortion That Matters

at Catholic Online

baby in the belly

 

The Supreme Court dodged a significant question when legalizing abortion because they didn’t want to answer it. It was the only question that mattered; it was the only one that was relevant. It’s the question, and the answer, upon which the whole thing hinges.
So let’s answer it.

But first, let’s have some very plain talk about pregnancy and women. I’m an expert on both subjects, since I’m a woman who has been pregnant 5 times and has given birth to four children. (My husband and I lost our first child in a miscarriage at 9 weeks.)

Pregnancy is unlike anything else even an extremely imaginative person could imagine. Pick a feeling, and it probably applies to pregnancy at some point. Joyful, scared, elated, nervous, sick, numb, sad, angry, happy, lonely, hungry, tired, energized, eager, dreading, grateful, you name it. It all fits.

Pregnancy is amazing. It’s terrifying. It’s life-altering. Seriously life-altering. And you can’t even predict how it will alter your life or how it will make you feel or how you’ll react. Nope, you’re along for the ride, and it’s wild and crazy sometimes.

Pregnancy is other-worldly. It is awesome in its power. What’s going on inside your body is mind-blowing. But pregnancy is also downright exhausting, so you can’t stay on the mountaintop of awe continually. You come down when your head is over the toilet.

Or when you’re tossing and turning, unable to sleep with an aching back. Or when you can’t tie your shoes because, hey, you can’t even see your feet.

Pregnancy can be frightening, too. The weight of the burden (literally and figuratively speaking) can sneak up on you in weak or tired moments, and then all you can do is cry. It’s overwhelming.

It’s wonderful and it sucks. It’s a dream-come-true and it’s nightmarish. It’s a lot of fun and it’s a lot of work. It’s exciting and it’s monotonous. It’s a miracle. But it doesn’t always feel that way.

It’s no easy thing, period. There is no reason not to admit that pregnancy can be very, very hard on a woman. It can be every good and beautiful thing, and it can be some very difficult things, too. That’s the truth. Plain and simple.

But here’s the bottom line: it’s irrelevant.

Yep, you heard me.

Now calm down. Women’s feelings, women’s bodies, women’s personal sufferings, women’s private sacrifices, women’s needs and wants are all very important and wholly relevant to the subject of women, and of marriage, and of health care.

However, all those things I said about pregnancy and what a woman goes through are utterly and completely irrelevant– when it comes to abortion. It doesn’t matter a hill o’ beans! (as my Dad would say.)

All that matters is the humanity of the child in the womb.

The morality, the ethicalness, and yes, the legality of abortion depends on only one question: Does abortion kill a human child or not? Yes or no? It’s not a complicated question, and it demands a simple yes or no answer.

If you answer No, then you must explain what exactly abortion does. Based on real science, mind you. “Terminating a pregnancy” is not a sufficient answer. Pregnant with what? (By the way, childbirth terminates a pregnancy.) Why is the pregnancy considered terminated? What has changed? The uterus is emptied? Emptied of what? What was there that required being “terminated”?

If not a human child, then what? A seahorse? A cucumber? No, silly, of course not. Okay, then what? A clump of cells? What kind of cells?Hamster? Whale? (Oh, if only whale! Then those precious cells would be safe!)  No, not animal. Okay, so they’re human cells.

A human being, then? A “potential” human being?

Ah, yes… the “potential” human being. A darling phrase of the abortion advocates, or at least the keep-abortion-legal crowd. Many well-meaning folks cling to this idea that the child is merely a “potential” child, on its way to being human but not quite there yet. Development, size, age, etc., are not all aligned well enough to meet the fully-human criteria, so they feel more comfortable “terminating” this merely “potential” human being.

Alongside this reasoning is the deification of woman by many abortionists who claim that women can magically bestow humanity on their child if they decide they want to keep their child, and withhold humanity if they do not want their child. Women have god-like powers over the “products” of their wombs, and the child only becomes a “real person” if the mother chooses.  It’s the stuff of fairytales!

The truth is actually quite simple. When sperm and ovum join, an entirely new human person comes into existence who never existed before. This new human person may be microscopic for a while, but is nevertheless, human. With a complete DNA blueprint that is unique, this human begins his or her life in the exact same manner that each of us did — growing each day, changing each day, safely tucked away in the only space in the universe that can sustain him or her, by design.

Humanity is not a function of utility, or size, or development, or appearance, or wantedness. Humanity is not something any of us can bestow or withhold from another because it is not ours to give or take away. We do not grant it. We cannot conjure it up out of nothing. To pretend we can is delusional.

The only other answer to the question, then, is Yes, and if you are honest enough to answer Yes, then you must also be honest enough to say out loud that we are a nation that sanctions killing children.

That makes us barbarians. We have given legal protection to the most egregious, most horrifying, most evil action imaginable: killing our children. That is the reality of abortion. Sweep away all the political mumbo-jumbo and all the euphemistic crap. The truth is, we give legal protection to the crime of killing children. We have justified the unjustifiable. We’ve been falling all over ourselves ever since that terrible day 41 years ago in our attempts to hide it, disguise it, excuse it, redefine it, and when that wasn’t enough, to begin celebrating it as a “good” and a “necessary” thing for women.

It’s all crap. Every decent person knows it in the quiet of their own heart. Every honest person has to admit that we’re not terminating a pregnancy, as if pregnancies happened apart from a baby. We’re terminating our children.

Surely those nine Justices in 1973 knew this quite well. They had to have known it, but I guess they were not willing to seem unsympathetic to women and the growing cry for “equality.”

So they reached for their “penumbra” and invented a mythical “right” to abortion, giving it the illusion of sound legal reasoning, when it was nothing more than a snooty euphemism covering up something unspeakable.

They opined about the beginning of life, and the unknowableness of this beginning, then excused themselves from responsibility by saying it didn’t even matter that the Court could not say for certain when life begins. All that really mattered was that they had a “penumbra” and it allowed them to permit what no civilized society should ever permit.

Ever since, our babies have been sacrificed to their cowardice and our selfishness. There’s no pretty wrapping for any of this. There’s no plausible explanation or reasonable excuse. We have killed millions and millions of our own babies because we have consented to being barbarians in disguise. It happens in a nice clinical setting, far away from our eyes, and the victims are very, very small. So small they most often cannot be buried. They are hidden, and we gratefully take advantage of their obscurity. They are silent, and so we allow ourselves to keep silent as well.

And if they are small, but not so hidden anymore, then we defend our barbarism by blaming their “defects” and say it’s “better this way.” We shed dishonest tears of sorrow for deaths we commissioned, and assuage our consciences with the illusion of our nobility.

It’s all just crap. We are a nation that sanctions killing children. If killing our children isn’t wrong, then nothing is wrong. Nothing.

 

baby whale

 

 

 

 

 

Which image bothers you more?

baby girl killed by Gosnell

 
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Posted by on January 30, 2014 in Uncategorized

 

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Modern Heresy: Life is Created by Feelings

prince george

at Catholic Online

MSNBC’s Melissa Harris-Perry has a wacky theory for us that she believes should be the determining criteria for human life. LIFE itself, it’s very beginnings, depends on the feelings of another person (whose life, I assume, depends upon the feelings of another person, and so on, and so on…). Life cannot be said to exist based on science or logic or genuine knowledge or even common sense, but on feelings.

As the world celebrates the birth of the new prince in England (Happy Birth-day Prince George!), it is ironic to reflect on how the headlines and all the press around the world have always referred to the Duchess’s baby as just that, a baby. Not a fetus, never an embryo, never a clump of cells taking up residence in her uterus, certainly never an intruder. The world has correctly identified the baby as a baby and granted the baby the respect and humanity he has always deserved. Why? Because the parents are royalty? Because they’re wealthy? Because they’re stylish and beautiful? Maybe. Those are lousy reasons to recognize the obvious, but reasons still.

Harris-Perry has taken the occasion to point out to us the illogic and the hypocrisy of our own reactions and our society’s treatment of the child in the womb, though that isn’t what she meant to do. She’s making her case for the necessity and validity of abortion, but she actually does a good job of exposing how empty, selfish, and absurd is the entire premise.

She starts by contrasting the fairytale experience of William and Kate with other, more problematic experiences, and opines that, “When a pregnancy is wanted, by the mother and father, their family, their community, even their country, it is easy to think of the bump as a baby. But not every pregnancy is a fairytale. There are other stories. An ultrasound reveals serious birth defects; a child is raped and becomes pregnant; another baby would jeopardize a mother’s ability to feed her living children; a woman decides she does not want a child at all; these are different pregnancies.”

“They are reminders that an unwanted pregnancy can be biologically the same as a wanted one. But the experience can be entirely different.”

She goes on, “Eggs are fertilized. Embryos implant. Cells divide and multiply. Fetuses grow. But when does life begin? I submit the answer depends an awful lot on the feeling of the parents. A powerful feeling – but not science.”

(Before I continue, it must be said: 1. Yes, it’s quite easy to think of the bump as a baby because it is, in fact, a baby. 2. Birth defects, even serious ones, do not justify ripping a baby to pieces. 3. The child in the womb is also a mother’s living child.)

Pregnancy is not a condition that happens apart from a baby. That seems so obvious as to be dopey to even say, yet Harris-Perry repeats the idea — indeed the theme the abortion industry loves — that it’s the experience of pregnancy that matters, and whether it’s good or bad determines the value of the “bump”.

Hogwash. The condition of pregnancy is a gigantic smörgåsbord of possible experiences, good, bad, and ugly, but that doesn’t mean diddley in relation to the inherent value of the baby. I’ve had four children so I speak with great authority and depth of experience. I know very well that pregnancy is not all roses and lollipops.

Here comes the most politically-incorrect thing you’ll ever hear: How a woman feels about pregnancy is utterly and totally irrelevant to the fact that there is a baby in her womb. Her feelings matter very much indeed, because she matters, but her feelings have nothing whatsoever to do with the humanity of the child in her womb. She cannot feel the baby into life or into nothingness.

She does not determine the child’s worth or value based on her feelings. Her feelings do not grant humanity to a “clump of cells.” Her feelings, whether negative or positive, do not affect the personhood of the child one iota. The child IS a human being, period. Feelings have nothing to do with it.

Harris-Perry’s entire argument is the absurd idea that if a woman has a good experience of pregnancy and wants her child, then because she feels happy about it, her “bump” is indeed a baby. If her experience is not good and she feels negatively about it, then her “bump” is not a baby. More than that, life has not actually begun because her feelings have not granted it.

First, it strikes me as incredibly insulting because it just plays into the old sexist stereotype that everything women do is based on feelings, and women are incapable of thinking rationally and employing logic and sound reasoning. So much for using our heads, girls. And forget about science, right? Women just react emotionally to everything!

Second, speaking of science, I thought it was Christians who were supposedly anti-science! Forget human biology — in Harris-Perry’s magical and incoherent world, women just feel life into existence and presto! — bumps become babies!! Wow! Again, it’s insulting to tell women that things aren’t real if they don’t want them to be real. Facts are not obliterated by feelings. And the power to grant and create life is thankfully not at the whim of women’s emotions.

Harris-Perry really held up the mirror, though, and her crazy, narcissistic remarks are an accurate reflection of our depraved times. We really do gush over the desired child of royalty in one breath and scream for the “termination” of the unwanted-es in the next breath. We feel totally justified in demanding the ‘right” to choose whether this child lives or that one dies.

We actually do believe that our feelings grant life and that our choice is what makes a baby a baby versus “insentient tissue”. The child in the womb has no intrinsic value to us, only subjective value determined by exterior circumstances and desires, and the ultimate barometer, our feelings.

The child in the womb of a Duchess is celebrated and protected and called a baby. The child in the womb of a college student is called a threat to her future and killed. The child in the womb of an unwilling mother is called an unwelcome intruder and a parasite and killed. The child in the womb of a poor minority mother is considered a thief stealing food and resources from the family and killed. The child conceived in rape couldn’t possibly be considered anything but vulgar and is killed.

In every case, the child is the same — a human person. Circumstances and feelings are irrelevant to that fact. The difference is our response. We can’t have it both ways. If Kate’s baby has always been a baby, then so is every baby in every mother’s womb.

I realize that for centuries the birth of a royal baby has been met with lavish celebration while the birth of a poor child, a sick child, an “imperfect” child born to a less-than-picturesque family is either ignored or met with open disdain. God Himself came to this world a poor child, born among livestock because no one would give His mother a room. This foolish world continues to miss the miracle unless it comes wrapped in style and beauty.

The current mixed conduct toward expectant mothers and their babies is not a new phenomenon. Even our disregard for the child in the womb is nothing new in human history. Abortion is not a modern invention. It’s an old, old evil. Living in a society where it is legal and sanctioned by the positive law of the land, however, is what makes our time so barbaric and grotesque.

That we have elevated abortion to the status of a “right” and tried to confer on it moral credibility is what makes us so-called civilized and enlightened people so depraved. And in our technologically-advanced world, with our knowledge of the human body and the window we have into the womb, we have absolutely no excuse for our selfish and hideous insistence that the child is not fully human, not a person, not a baby.

If we ever hope to achieve a nation where the children of poor families are given the same consideration as those of the rich; where babies of every race are treated with equal respect; where mothers, in every circumstance, are given the help, support, and protection they need and deserve, then we must start at square one. And square one is this: It is not a choice, but a child, and the child in the womb is a human person who has the right to live and be born. Period.

Only when that is settled and non-negotiable can we finally put all our energy where it belongs, and then the frightened young mother, or the overwhelmed mother, or the distraught mother, or the poor mother will not feel they’re left to their own devices without support.

Yes, the experience of pregnancy can be anything from joyful to terrifying and everything in between. It can be a dizzying mix of emotions and physical challenges. But whatever the experience, the humanity of the child in the womb is an unchanging fact. Whether that makes anyone feel glad, sad or mad is simply immaterial.

 
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Posted by on July 24, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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Texas Bill SB-1 Threatens to Make Casual Sex Harder to Come By

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protesters in Austin

“Responsible men can become more deeply convinced of the truth of the doctrine laid down by the Church on this issue if they reflect on the consequences of methods and plans for artificial birth control. Let them first consider how easily this course of action could open wide the way for marital infidelity and a general lowering of moral standards. Not much experience is needed to be fully aware of human weakness and to understand that human beings—and especially the young, who are so exposed to temptation—need incentives to keep the moral law, and it is an evil thing to make it easy for them to break that law. Another effect that gives cause for alarm is that a man who grows accustomed to the use of contraceptive methods may forget the reverence due to a woman, and, disregarding her physical and emotional equilibrium, reduce her to being a mere instrument for the satisfaction of his own desires, no longer considering her as his partner whom he should surround with care and affection.” Humanae Vitae #17

In sharing his Bro-Choice thoughts about Texas bill HB-2 (now SB-1) and why it’s so critical to guys in Texas that it be promptly squashed, Ben Sherman has given us the latest bit of proof that Pope Paul VI was a prophet.

SB-1 is the bill that seeks to ban abortions after 20 weeks and require abortion clinics to uphold medical standards of safety. This is the bill that Wendy Davis and her pink sneakers are now infamous for having filibustered the first time around in the state’s House last week. It had the votes to pass and indeed would have passed if not for the shenanigans employed by Davis to push the voting past midnight. Thankfully, Governor Rick Perry had the courage to call another session and bring the measure up for a vote again, and this time it passed. Now it’s on to the Texas Senate.

Enter Sherman and his sexual panic. Actually, I have to give the guy credit for being honest at least. Sherman’s admission just proves what the Church has been saying for decades now, that abortion, contraception, and all this sexual “freedom” has turned more and more men into pigs and more and more women into objects to be used, abused, and then abandoned.

He tried to make a good show of being deeply concerned for the health and well-being of Texas women — especially sisters, mothers, girlfriends, and wives, you know, the women that guys really care about — but the weight of his argument, the nitty-gritty of it is that SB-1 will kill the mood and thus spoil the sex lives of Texas guys. (I can’t call them men.)

After all, he points out, if a woman doesn’t have the assurance of abortion to fall back on when the birth control fails, she’s a lot less likely to give the guys the casual sex they want without strings attached.

Your sex life is at stake. Can you think of anything that kills the vibe faster than a woman fearing a back-alley abortion? Making abortion essentially inaccessible in Texas will add anxiety to sex that will drastically undercut its joys. And don’t be surprised if casual sex outside of relationships becomes far more difficult to come by.”
“It’s clear: if the Legislature basically takes away a Texas woman’s right to choose, having sex becomes a much, much riskier proposition for woman and men.”

“For those of us who like girls – you know, like them like them — and want to have relationships with them that may last anywhere from a few minutes to many years, we need to think about how this bill, by curtailing the bodily autonomy and sexual freedom of women, hurts us, too.”

Isn’t it nice how the “bodily autonomy” of women is so very, very important to Sherman? It’s so dear to him because that’s what ensures his own satisfaction. It’s also what safeguards his freedom — freedom from responsibility and parenting, that is. Sherman realizes that women don’t become pregnant on their own, and if those pesky unwanted and unplanned pregnancies can’t be gotten rid of, then suddenly there’s babies who need fathers! And man, Sherman’s just thinking of all those poor guys out there who aren’t ready to be a father and how unfair SB-1 is to them.

Your freedom to choose is at stake, too. While it is ultimately a woman’s choice whether to have an abortion, many women choose to make that decision with the man involved. Do you want that decision ready-made for you by politicians in state government? Not if you value freedom, you don’t.
You want to decide when and if to have kids. This bill will force thousands of Texas men into unplanned fatherhood by making it impossible for women to access an abortion in the event of an unplanned pregnancy. Even if you want to have kids, you probably don’t want an accident to make you a father before you’re psychologically ready and able to care for a child. If you don’t want kids, you don’t want the narrow, personal views of politicians in the state government to force you to have them.”

Let’s take it one thing at a time. If only SB-1 really did make abortion inaccessible to women in Texas! If only it really did do away with abortion in Texas. But it wouldn’t. It seeks to ban abortions after 20 weeks of pregnancy. That’s 5 -6 months into pregnancy, when the child can feel pain. Abortions after this stage are also more dangerous for the mother. (Sherman, meet the Morbelli family.) You’d think Sherman would be hesitant to subject women he cares so much about to procedure that presents a real danger to their lives. But clearly, tearing a tiny child into pieces is a “medical procedure” that simply must be preserved for the sake of Sherman’s sex life.

Now to this issue of “unplanned” fatherhood. (Boy, those pesky sperm that just sneak out and crawl up into a woman’s private parts and make these annoying and inconvenient babies that nobody planned on!) Sherman, I hate to break it to you, but sex makes babies. If you’re not willing and ready to welcome a child into your life, then keep your pants on. It’s that simple. If you engage in sex, then you’d better be man enough to accept the consequences of your actions.

No one’s playing a nasty trick on you, forcing you to become a father. If you become a father, you did it yourself. You become a father the moment you help conceive a child. Human Biology 101. No one in the state government has any interest at all in making you or anyone else a father or mother.

The interest is in the life of the child in the womb, who is innocent and does not deserve to die because Sherman or anyone else is too immature, too selfish, too irresponsible, too whatever to accept the reality that the child is a human being who has the right to live.

Sherman’s attitude and words should be a giant wake-up call. It’s the most recent exhibit demonstrating that abortion and contraception have done nothing but cement the objectification of women into society. Women are simply bodies to be used by men for their own satisfaction, then discarded and abandoned.

Casual sex with no strings attached is the order of the day, so let’s make sure the women can “take care of” any unwanted things that might result. It’s in the guys’ best interest to make sure women have the “freedom” to abort at any time for any reason. It’s just so hard to coax a gal into bed without the promise of abortion waiting afterward.

Spare me the fake-poignant argument that defeating SB-1 is about concern for your girlfriends and wives and sisters, Sherman. You made your point perfectly, and I thank you for your honesty. “And don’t be surprised if casual sex outside of relationships becomes far more difficult to come by.”

Ladies, is this really the best we can do? Seriously? Why on earth would any of you consent to this degrading treatment? A real man builds his house on a secure foundation first. Then he commits himself to a woman for life before he makes children with her. He accepts the responsibility for all his actions and doesn’t leave the burden on the woman he purports to love. He certainly doesn’t condemn his child to death for the sake of his sex life.

But I guess until enough women tell guys like Sherman to get lost, until enough women start valuing their own bodies, until enough women realize that abortion is not empowerment or freedom or progress and that the child in the womb has the right to live and be born, then guys like Sherman will continue to objectify women, use them for selfish pleasure, and leave them to deal with any “unplanned” consequences.

And babies will continue to be sacrificed on the altar of sexual gratification because, as Sherman so aptly reminded us, we can’t risk any anxiety that might undercut the joys of sex.

I can only speak for this Texas woman. May God hasten the day that abortion is no longer acceptable to any man or woman in Texas, and may SB-1 be a solid step toward that day.

 
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Posted by on July 12, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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Ignore the Tiny Corpses: America’s Powerful Conceal the Monster

at Catholic Online

Jesus showed us with astonishing clarity how endless is the love of God and how deep His mercy when He faced His executioners without a word except to say, “Father, forgive them.” He modeled for us the power of meekness. A challenging example indeed.

There was also the day He became justifiably angry, cracked a whip and turned over some tables and was anything but meek. There are things worthy of outrage, things that cry out for a bold confrontation.

When exactly did it become a crime against Love to expose evil and call it evil? When did it become more loving to soft-peddle with gentler words rather than speak candidly?

Taking a cue from Edmund Burke, all that’s necessary for the unthinkable to be accepted is for people to find candor and confrontation of evil more unthinkable. We have mistaken politeness for Love. We’ve placed comfort and niceness above the truth and called it our Christian duty. We grow more and more silent, more and more complacent as the evil around us grows braver and more outrageous.

I’m not talking about pronouncing judgment on anyone’s soul or limiting God’s mercy, but about tolerating evil. Not just tolerating it, but disguising it, concealing it, feeding it.

For the sake of shredding the flimsy veneer of respectability and righteousness covering the stinking pile sitting in our midst, here goes.

There is currently on trial in America a person who fits the definition of a monster. Every bit as evil as Hitler, or the most demented murderer you can imagine. He has a medical degree, so his monstrous actions were done in the name of “health care.” His name is Kermit Gosnell, and he has murdered babies for years. He is a human butcher.

He preys on foolish, desperate women, and perhaps some women who are as cold-hearted as he is. He serves no one and cares for no one. He is a killer of the weakest, most vulnerable, most defenseless human beings on the planet. His “work”, his actions, his business is nothing but pure evil. (He likes to keep his victim’s little feet in jars as trophies.)

He’ll rip a near-term living baby from the womb, grab a pair of scissors, and cut the child’s spinal column at the neck. He calls it abortion. So do a lot of other people in America.

baby with neck slit by gosnell

You would think that every decent citizen in our nation would be so repulsed, so aghast and horrified at the evil this man has done that it would cause soul-searching on a massive scale, and finally, an honest public debate about the reality of abortion.

Thanks to the intentional, shameful silence on the part of major news media, I’ll bet that a majority of Americans have no clue about Gosnell or what he’s done. This same majority will bristle at the legitimate charges brought against Planned Parenthood and balk at the idea of defunding them. This same majority will go deaf, dumb, and blind when presented with the fact that their stylish, charming President voted four times to deny life-saving medical care to infants who survived an abortion.

I’d bet there are more people who will defend Gosnell’s “work” than people who will call him a child killer. In fact, the people most desperate to make Gosnell just disappear are those who want to see his “work” continue, though perhaps not as gruesomely or publicly.

Then again, I don’t think the gruesomeness bothers them at all. What bothers them is that Gosnell has made abortion and abortionists look bad and made some people actually feel sorry for the baby.

I don’t think taxpayer-funded-Planned Parenthood, NARAL Pro-Choice, any other pro-abortion lobby or organization, anyone in the mainstream media, or any of our pro-abortion politicians including Obama cares one whit about what Gosnell has done to so many innocent children. They only care that he did it sloppily, left a mess behind him, and got caught.

This murderer’s shocking crimes are being ignored by those in power because abortion is more important.

A sadistic and greedy killer is being hidden by people who say they only want women to have freedom of “choice”, and they only want the best for children in America. They are the ones who truly care about women, about children, about families, about quality health care, about freedom.

To Planned Parenthood; to PP’s guardian and benefactor in the White House; every other political advocate for abortion; and every so-called feminist screaming for “Abortion on demand and without apology!”, I’m calling b.s.

You don’t give a damn about women, and you certainly don’t give a damn about children. You are every bit as invested in the death of the unborn (or born) child as Gosnell, every bit as greedy for the money to be made by killing babies. Your mission is not women’s health or women’s freedom or women’s choice, but women’s coercion, women’s manipulation, women’s degradation and usage, and if women are sometimes butchered right along with the babies, so be it.

Your mission is dead babies. You don’t want fewer abortions, you want more. You’re not interested in planning parenthood, but in making sure abortion finally is seen as a necessary, essential, and noble facet of every woman’s life. Your goal is that the stigma of abortion should be redirected toward the child in the womb, and to the woman who refuses to believe your bloody lies.

In order to secure future clients and keep the money coming in, you’re going after our school children with your perverted version of “sex education” that destroys modesty, normalizes every sort of sexual immorality, mandates condom and Pill distribution and forbids any mention of abstinence. You’re making sure Planned Parenthood has access to young girls to “provide” them with “health care” information and abortions without their parent’s knowledge or consent. You are actively corrupting our children in the most manipulative and disgusting manner.

Only one thing is sacred to you (beyond the $$) and that is sex — wherever, with whomever, whenever, and however anyone wants. With no consequences or obligations. You worship genitals and orgasms and every manner of titillation, and the sacrifice you bring to your altar is the child in the womb.

Your scare-tactic speeches about the back-alley abortions of yesteryear are as hollow as your professed concern for the welfare of children. Your insistence that a woman’s bodily autonomy is paramount have now been revealed to be nothing but smoke. What you really mean is, babies who have the nerve to survive the first attempt on their lives have no right to medical care, and can quite justifiably be left to die, even made to die, on the table. (It’s not infanticide, you say, but post-birth abortion.)

When PP’s Florida lobbyist recently said out loud that the decision to give medical care to an infant who survives an abortion should be left to the woman and her doctor, she was merely echoing Barack Obama as an Illinois Senator when he said that caring for the child would “only burden the original decision of the woman”. In other words, mom wanted the baby dead, so somebody better make sure the baby dies. That’s what we’re paid for.

It doesn’t matter to any of you when the baby dies, or how the baby dies, or where the baby dies, just as long as the baby dies. That is what you’re really all about, and not another breath should be wasted trying to say otherwise. No more soft-peddling with euphemisms and tip-toeing around the truth.

You are all advocates for killing defenseless children. You are not advocates for women’s health care, or women’s equality, or women’s freedom. You are advocates of child murder. If you find that statement harsh, too bad. You have gotten this far only because too many people are too squeamish to call things what they really are. The evil you do has thrived only because people are unwilling to confront you honestly and tear the sympathetic masks off your faces.

You may find Gosnell distasteful and annoying because he focuses unwanted negative attention on your killing industry, but the best you can do is whine that the monster is in because not enough doctors are willing to become abortionists because of the pesky “stigma” of abortion. To you Gosnell’s “clinic” is proof-positive that America needs more access to abortion, with fewer restrictions and legal oversight so that women won’t be “forced” to see a creep like him.

You step right over the tiny corpses. Your answer to evil is to keep feeding the evil.

And you’ll keep doing it for as long as we give you the power. You’ll keep feeding the evil, and feeding America lies and smokescreens for as long as you can. And we will remain a nation that butchers its own babies.

How long will that be, America? How long will that be, Body of Christ?

(Want to know what the mainstream news media isn’t reporting?)
http://www.lifenews.com/2013/04/05/gosnell-employee-it-would-rain-fetuses-and-blood-everywhere/

http://www.lifenews.com/2011/01/24/kermit-gosnell-drugged-tied-up-woman-before-forced-abortion/

http://www.lifenews.com/2013/03/07/judge-in-kermit-gosnell-abortion-case-dismisses-pro-life-jurors/

http://www.lifenews.com/2013/04/03/jury-sees-photos-of-unborn-babies-kermit-gosnell-stabbed-in-the-neck/

http://www.lifenews.com/2013/03/21/gosnell-did-three-day-long-abortions-at-30-weeks-of-pregnancy/

 
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Posted by on April 7, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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Jennifer and Madison Morbelli: Two Lives Butchered by Abortion

sad-womanHow do we tell the truth about the deaths of Jennifer Morbelli and her baby girl, Madison, without risking more pain to her husband and family? That’s been my internal dilemma all week since the news of her death made the rounds. (Not the major media, mind you. They don’t seem to want to breathe a word of this abortion fiasco.) No one wants to add insult to injury here.

This is the understandable caution you can feel in every reporting of her death, and it silences the obvious truth: neither one of them should be dead today. That is the point. But the decision to kill little Madison also resulted in the death of her mother. It didn’t have to be this way. That is the evil of abortion. It kills. It does not bring freedom or opportunity or solutions to problems or show compassion. It just kills.

(Jennifer Morbelli died February 7, 2013, after having a late-term abortion at 33 weeks, committed by Leroy Carhart.)

A pronouncement of “fetal abnormalities” is received as the final, authoritative word, and immediate death is given as the best option — the “right choice.” There is no room for life, or possibilities, or love or faith or God. So many moms and dads receive such news every day regarding their babies in the womb, and in their shock, their sadness, their fear, they are steered down the road that leads only to death.

With doom and gloom being handed them as a certainty, they are persuaded that the compassionate thing to do is to choose to play God themselves, and decide their child’s fate now.

We know it happens every day, all over. Vulnerable parents have hope snatched away, and unbearable suffering promised instead. Nightmarish visions of handicapped children replace the happy daydreams, and terrible imaginings take over.

Sometimes the fatal outcome predicted is indeed correct. Nobody is guaranteed a perfectly healthy child.

Yet it seems three very important things are never taken into consideration: 1. Doctors and tests are often wrong. 2. Parents are often much stronger than they think they are. 3. God. God may want to surprise you in ways you can’t predict right now. He certainly gives grace to handle whatever He asks of you. And a 4th thing as well: What you feared most may not be as horrible as you thought it would be. Go back to #3.

The bottom line is, though, that even if the worst news is true, killing the child in the womb is never the answer, never the compassionate choice, never the right choice, never the best option. Babies are not property we can dispose of when they are deemed damaged beyond repair, or just beyond our comfort level. Babies are not things we can order up when we want them, and reject the “defective” ones. Nobody is entitled to only the baby they envision in their daydreams.

But in a society where babies are now commodities and killing the child in the womb is considered a good thing for women — a “right” that must be protected and expanded and publicly-funded — we believe we are entitled to receive only what we want, and entitled to reject anything we don’t want. Even our own children.

We are convinced that anything less than perfect health equals an unacceptable “quality of life”, and that “compassion” demands we prevent such imperfection from ever seeing the light of day. Some people might say that’s a terribly flippant way of characterizing it, but is it? Babies are “terminated” every day for far less than severe brain abnormalities. In fact, some are exterminated simply for being girls.

When we take unto ourselves the power and the authority to decide life and death, then the life we deem less than quality, less than ideal, less than everything we hoped, too full of uncertainty is now expendable with near impunity because it’s the “best option for everyone.” We forget that we are so very often, wrong.

We forget that God is God. We forget that life is a gift. We forget that suffering is not the end of the world. We forget that love is stronger than death.

I can’t fathom the grief and the burden that T.J. Morbelli and Jennifer’s family will carry for the rest of their lives. It is high time we all learned the lesson and put an end to the killing. It did not have to be this way for this family. It’s heartbreaking that Madison’s parents chose death for her and did not allow her to be born. It’s heartbreaking that that choice cost Jennifer her life as well. It’s an intolerable tragedy because it never should have happened. It was not a freak accident that no one could have prevented.

Morbelli-funeral

It was a choice. The “choice” that is supposed to be so necessary for women’s equality and freedom… what a sham. It is never necessary to kill the child in the womb. Furthermore, it is a deadly con to say that such late-term abortions must be kept legal for the sake of women’s health. Jennifer Morbelli is dead. I’d say that was hardly necessary for her health.

How long are we going to keep protecting human butchers like Leroy Carhart? How long are we going to justify the barbarism that goes on in his so-called clinic? (A clinic, by the way, that the state of Maryland didn’t even see fit to inspect before granting his license the day before Morbelli died. Way to go, Maryland.) He is no friend or champion of women and their health.

The truth is that late-term abortions are extremely risky to the mother’s life, a fact Carhart seems to be both well aware of and intent on hiding, given his written instructions to his patients NOT to go to the ER if they need medical attention after the abortion. How convenient for him; protective of his profits and the whitewashed version of abortion he wants the nation to see.

Surely childbirth would have preserved Jennifer’s life. It would have given Madison’s parents the chance to hold her, to kiss her and shower her with their love, even if her life was quickly ended by disease. Is not the memory of love given and life shared far better than just cold death? As Karen Santorum said to me so eloquently, “You never lose with love.” And she knows of what she speaks.

She and her husband, Rick Santorum, lost their son, Gabriel, when the in-utero surgery to save his life (which was successful, by the way) sadly resulted in a uterine infection that caused his premature delivery, and after a few hours, their beautiful boy died in their arms.

Doctors and hospitals across the country need to start providing perinatal hospice to parents like the Morbelli’s. Genuine care and compassion demand that life be respected and cherished and protected, not slaughtered the way Madison and her mother were. You won’t find a family who chose life, who was given the gift of perinatal hospice who said in the end, “We wish we’d just aborted our child.” You never lose with love.

No one will ever know now what Madison’s life would have been except God. All we know now is that a baby girl was murdered in the womb by a reckless, greedy butcher, her mother died as a result, and her father now lives with the unspeakable grief of losing his wife along with their child. It’s the tragedy that abortion brings.

Nothing good comes from choosing death over life. (We also know that thus far, no one in our legal system has the courage to hold Leroy Carhart accountable for the carnage he profits from. No, instead he is hailed as a hero by abortion proponents.)

It’s a tragedy that should never have happened. It should never happen again.

at Catholic Online

 
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Posted by on February 17, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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Trading Shame for Mercy: the Faith of an Outcast Shows Us How

hemofgarmentI love the story from Mark’s gospel (5:25-34) of the woman who’d endured years of suffering from bleeding. She was a social pariah and no one even dared get near her for fear of becoming unclean themselves. Though she was shunned and outcast, she was brave enough to push her way through the crowd hoping to touch Jesus’ cloak.

In her shame perhaps she didn’t dare hope to see His face, to meet His gaze, or touch His hand – that was too much to expect. Still, she believed that just the touch of His cloak as he passed by would be enough to save her. And immediately she received the healing she sought. But the best part is what Jesus does next.

Yes, He healed her body and stopped her bleeding, but now He was determined to restore her. He would not allow her to slink away unnoticed, and continue in her shame. When she had summoned the courage to admit it was she who touched Him, He did what probably no one had done in years – He looked at her and spoke to her. “Daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace and be freed from your suffering.”

He acknowledged her as a person, a woman, and a daughter of God. “…be freed from your suffering.” Her bleeding had already stopped, so it wasn’t her physical suffering He was speaking of. He knew so well that though she was physically cured, if she did not receive the healing in her spirit, she would never be whole.

He was telling her to be free from her shame and embarrassment and feelings of worthlessness and to no longer hide in the shadows. He was telling her to hold her head up again, and remember that her faith had brought her healing, and Jesus Himself had restored her dignity and worth. He looked into her eyes and affirmed her in love. Now she could truly “go in peace.”

I am, at times, rather like this woman in one important way. My heart is often burdened with shame, and it can be very difficult to “go in peace.” Sometimes I get so discouraged with myself and my lousy sinful behavior that I’d like to slink away and hide somewhere. After going around the same mulberry bush with the same sin for the ten-billionth time, I’d rather beat myself up with a stick than believe that Jesus forgives me and wants me to be free from shame.

Healthy shame has its rightful place and purpose, certainly. In fact, I’d say that our world could stand a whole lot more of it sometimes! But twisting our shame into something destructive is a favorite device of the enemy.

Shame can and should bring me to my knees at the Cross. It is right that I should be ashamed of my sin and feel heartbroken at the pain I have caused His Sacred Heart. But my shame should never go any further than the foot of the Cross, for His heart is full of only one thing for me: love. Endless, merciful love.

I am right to go to Jesus in sorrow and ask for forgiveness, but if I rise from the foot of His cross and carry the shame away with me again, I have not received His mercy at all. In fact I have insulted the love He gives me. Am I the one person in all of history for whom His sacrifice wasn’t enough? Is His blood not sufficient to cover my offenses? How arrogant! This is the trick of Satan regarding our shame.

Jesus looks at me and says, “I have forgiven you. Go in peace.” But the liar whispers, “You should be ashamed of yourself… You can’t really be forgiven for that. He might love you a little, but He still remembers what you did. You don’t deserve peace.” That proprietor of the pit snickers with glee each time a child of God walks away with a heart still burdened with shame, refusing to be freed. In believing the lie and clinging to shame, I declare Jesus a fraud and the cross a hoax.

A beloved priest once told me something I’ll always remember. After a wonderful yet intense time of confession and talking with him, he said, “From now on, this past sin is no longer your tormentor, but your teacher. You have been forgiven and God remembers it no more. You will remember, of course, but now it is to be your teacher, to help you grow in love and mercy for others.”

Is it hard to believe in the miraculous forgiveness Jesus offers us? It isn’t about you – how good or bad you are. It’s only about Him, and how perfect He is, and the lengths to which He has gone to prove how much He loves you. We are all undeserving, but we are not cast out to live as wretched, unwanted, nameless, faceless things.

Do not believe the lie of hell. Believe Jesus. Just believe it, and go in peace. Make it a forever trade – your shame for His mercy. You are not the dust beneath His feet, but the lost-and-found lamb in His arms.

Remember with a solemn heart the sacrifice of Jesus on the cross. Take your sins and your guilt and shame and leave them there in the bloodstained dirt. Then remember with gratitude that He has done this for you! What a high price He has paid for you! Who pays such a high price for something of no value or worth? Who would die for something insignificant? Who would do all that He has done for someone who meant nothing?

The wonderful truth is He has hung a price tag around your neck that says you are worth more than every ounce of gold this world has ever seen. You are in fact, priceless, because He is priceless and He sees Himself in you.

This is the only way we can ever love each other as well. We must see the price Jesus has paid for our brothers and sisters and even our enemies, and disregard the price tag placed on them by the world. Radical, huh? We are His own… and we are beloved. We are cleansed by His blood, restored to dignity by His grace, and He bids us go in peace.

at Catholic Online

 
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Posted by on February 5, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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